We celebrated five years together in November. It feels like it’s all we’ve known but at the same time, it has gone so fast. We were happy to achieve this milestone while in Darwin and made an extra special weekend of it.
Dave had his first day at his new office job on the Thursday. Juz wrote a nice poem that told the story of our relationship over the years and picked up some delicious baked goods on the way home. Dinner was a 24hr slow cooked pork roast before we headed into the city to watch Mystery Road at the Deckchair Cinema.
After work on Friday, Dave presented Juz with a beautiful bunch of flowers with a cute card full of sweet words before we drove into the city and checked in at Quest Apartments. We had a mini pub crawl, stopping at The Cav on our way to the Waterfront. We had dinner at Fiddler’s Green and some final drinks at The Precinct. Dave’s schooner of Prickly Moses Black Stallion blew our socks off and the alcohol content knocked us on our arses so we walked back to the hotel as soon as the glass was empty.
On Saturday, we had breakfast at the Roma Bar before attending a morning fish-feeding session at Aquascene. Later on, we met up with a few members of the Darwin Social Club at The Deck Bar and as the night progressed, we ended up at the Fox Hotel for more drinks and to listen to a musician who was playing all the right songs. Waking up on Sunday was a bit of a struggle, but we managed to get down to the Waterfront for breakfast at Fiddler’s Green before packing up and going home.
Over the last five years, we’ve learnt a lot about ourselves, each other and about relationships in general. Gaining perspective from other couples can be handy but at the same time, it’s important to remember that your relationship is just as unique as a fingerprint, and no two relationships are the same. Here are a few things we’ve learnt along the way.
1. Make the decision to love each other or not
A relationship is work – there are going to be highs and lows, and things about the other person that will give you the shits, but only you can decide whether you want to love this person or not.
2. Remove expectation
If you put too much expectation on someone, it can lead to serious disappointment. Don’t expect them to be a mind reader, tell them what you want.
3. Giving is better than receiving
You get out what you put in. Love, support, security – feed your relationship with the good stuff and it will grow healthily.
4. Freedom is oxygen for the soul
Nobody likes to feel like they’re trapped or suffocated. Give the other person time alone so they can nurture themselves. Living in each other’s pocket can cause you to forget who you are.
5. Don’t compare your relationship to others
Everyone is different and relationships are a combination of two different elements. No two relationships will ever be the same so don’t feel sad when you notice that your partner doesn’t do something that you thought was endearing in another’s partner.